The 2010 revelations list - year of the great unravelling

Dearest friends and compatriots

The first week of 2011 seems to have flown by. I have written a summary of my learnings and discoveries from 2010 ... rather than write an 'i did this, then i did that' account of the year, I wrote this list. I have been a fanatic of speaking in the 'I' for everything, and this year, I felt like doing it this way. I acknowledge everyone has their own journey, these are by no means me 'shoulding' on anyone .. and it felt good to write in this format. Thank you to all of you for your hand holds, ears, smiles and love this year. Love J9

The List
(in no particular order)

It is possible to love a beautiful puppy who grew into a handsome 14 month old adolescent like he is your own child (fur baby)

Grieving the loss of a child prematurely is one of the deepest sadnesses you could possibly ever experience

When grieving and coming to terms with a loss ... tell as many people as you can as quickly as possible .... the sweet sweet messages of support and love and condolences make the crying harder, and the grieving more complete...

It is possible to be deeply, philosophically and spiritually at terms with death and loss (seeing its purpose in the bigger scheme of things) whilst simultaneously crying a river of tears and feeling the human-ness of sadness

Take a stand ... If something feels deeply deeply wrong, take a stand about it and communicate with integrity and hope (thank you Luis)

Let go of all the screwed up ideas about what to eat and when to eat it... Just eat when you are hungry and don't when you are not

REALLY enjoy the eating when you are

Love your body, even the flabby bits

The French rock when it comes to food, style and finesse

A powerful woman is one who feels comfortable in her own skin who loves herself and feels good about herself ... That is deeply attractive

Best selling authors and speakers, whilst brilliant and profound, able to enlighten and make a difference, are human with things to learn like the rest of us

The males of our species whilst often given a hard time by us women, are gorgeous, loving, caring and wonderful creatures

Some highly ego driven people could do to 'stop it' and learn to apologize more often

If you are someone who spends too much time apologizing for yourself, then stop it.

No more casual shagging ... intimacy is the only thing to attract and don't compromise yourself in the process (no matter how appealing the shag may be) he he

Slow up on putting 'he he' at the end of uncomfortable communications. Stand by them with power and integrity

It is possible to be deeply happy about, and to love your ex fiance's new fiance ... And even co-habitate for a period of time whilst loving their company and everything they have to share

Being 'in-love' is not the stuff of hopeless romantics .... It is available and important to expect of a relationship

Falling in love and it 'feeling totally utterly right' can happen in a matter of moments, weeks or months (thank you for the hope this affords me paul and therese !!)

Don't ever let anyone tell you who to be in love with

Love everyone

Never compromise on what you feel in your heart ... And trust that being alone is better than settling for a partner that doesn't feel right no matter how much you love them

Being depressed is normal and natural and everything to be proud of and to embrace... It has deep and profound spiritual meaning so allow yourself to go through to take the lesson

Don't let anyone talk or diagnose or medicate you out of a depression (prematurely or unnecessarilyi), experiment with doing it consciously ... And be proficient at vibing yourself up and happy-facing it when out in public ... Both them and you will feel better for it

Talk about it with your friends

Ask for support, love and nurturing ... Your friends are waiting for that chance to love and nurture you (not rescue you). They just need you to give them the opportunity (and the instructions)

No one in your life deserves your pedestool. It sucks for you and the person you put on it.

Love yourself and stand by yourself ... Your opinion counts as does the way you feel

Trust your heart and the way you feel above everything else ... Whilst engaging your 'watcher' ... Even if it is not the logically best path, the act of following your emotional path will give you the lesson more deeply and fully than the intellectual one you would otherwise have had to barge your way through using discipline and logical force.

The emotional path may seem a stupid irrational path, yet that path may open unrelated doors which was actually the reason for following the feeling in the first place, however stupid (or pathetic) it may have seemed.

Its better to uncover and deal with your fear than to blast your way through it ...

"Praise makes you brave" (Thank you Barbara)

Tell the truth and attract the truth from others

It is ok to be angry and upset ... Don't ever take it on board that you should not be upset ... Honour the emotion (it has a lessson for you) let it move through you, express it appropriately, and point your sailing boat toward the healed space of acceptance and love

Sail there as soon as you can

All of the above is to be done responsibly, un-accusatorily, and from the aware place of your 'watching' self (not your victimy self ;) ... ditch the drama

If you're angry and upset all the time ... then do something radically different and/or go see someone with the skills to help you

Don't let your emotions rule you, let them guide you

The world is a very abundant place. Give up the scarcity and be generous

Family comes in all shapes and sizes

It is ok to be umbilically attached to your computer ... And the beautiful connections that affords world-wide can save you from the isolation of living alone, in tasmania

Double shot cappuccinos are good for the soul

Yes it is possible to be in love with your frying pan (ferrari red le crueset ones called ruby)

Taking time off with no particular agenda is one of the biggest gifts you could give yourself

Saving money and having a big lump of it in the bank gives you options

The Overland Track in Tasmania is one of the most exquisite and breath takingly stunning wildernesses in the world and can not be wandered too many times

The world is a weird and difficult place to live in, and it rocks at the same time.

Be kind and loving even when you think someone has lost the plot and is talking shit ... Give then the benefit of the doubt

If the above is a family member .... Then apply this learning five-fold

If your mum has died a little or a long time ago, it is ok to still miss her and even shed a tear for her .... It doesn't mean anything about your lack of spiritual development ... It makes you a feeling human.

Dads, whilst they may not show it easily have so many emotions and feelings and thoughts running around their brains and bodies, show their immense love by inviting you to their raspberry bushes to pick lots to take home

Witches are alive and well and are probably casting a spell on you right now

Everything is going to be ok

Love everyone ... And everything.

Spend time out in nature ... And breathe it in to every cell of your body. It is a blessing.

There is a lot of weird and unexplainable things going on in the universe .... Open your mind and heart to new possibilities.

Be grateful.

Meditating, And journalling every day is good for the soul

Setting up systems and embracing technology can be a powerful way to bring people together and to share something wonderful ... even if it doesn't feel like a spiritual calling .. it just might be!

Isolation is a dream killer (Barbara thank you again :)

Community doesn't have to be living on the same plot of land to be present and supportive!

Speak only kind words about others

Writing about emotions and personal journeying is good for the soul (thank you again Barbara for 'making' me write again.. and for the clue about me and emotional intensity)

The world needs deep emotional truth and healing right now

The power of being human is the power to come together in the act of creation.
Our ability to project an image into the future then set about creating it. using past experiences... That is the positive aspect of past and future

A joke a day keeps the grumpiness at bay (lave ya John and Karin :)

Children have a right to be heard and to express themselves and to be given the gift of emotional awareness and expression.... A blending of the old parenting discipline and boundaries alongside the gift of expressing and non-interference

It is very insightful to revisit past homelands and the friends you had there to see who has moved on and who has stayed the same .... Lots of same-staying it seems ....

Surround yourself with supportive and inspiring people, and make sure you have something of the same to offer up

Coordinating events that bring framily together is one of the funnest and fulfilling things to do (and I re-discovered I'm actually good at it ... yay)!!

The possibility awaiting through the expression of the feminine is exciting, mysterious and a curious adventure ...

It is an extremely exciting time to be alive ....

I realize the more I know there is even more I don't know ...

Here's to the journey of discovery.

J

ps i love hearing your comments. does any of this resonate for you??